A student sent me this:
(created by this guy)
She knows my oversimplified metaphor, that men are like driving standard transmission – if you move through the gears in the right order, you will get where you want to go – and women are like baking a souffle – the outcome depends on the ingredients and the chef, sure, but it also depends on the reliability of the oven, the altitude, the humidity of the day… more variables, more variability.
Because I am truly a nerd and therefore can’t just let it go, I must comment that men would have TWO switches; as I’ve recently repeated, sexual response emerges as the product of the sexual excitation system (on switch) and sexual inhibition system (off switch). Or not switches, but dials, on those level things they have on sound boards.
Are men and women THIS different? … Well no… but… kind of, yes. I mean, in the same way that the categories “men” and “women” are not accurate reflections of the population – i.e., it’s not that simple and even within groups variability is great – this is not an accurate representation of the population. But insofar as the categories “men” and “women” ARE accurate representations of the population – and let’s face it, those categories work just fine for many, many people in the world – yes, it’s pretty darn accurate.