I said I’d write about the g-spot, so here it is! Hurrah. This is just an intro – it’s history, what it is, where it is.
“G” stands for Grafenberg, the gynecologist who “discovered” the spot. In 1950 he wrote an academic article about the role of the urethra in female sexual response, particularly with regard to orgasm through penetration. It was named the g-spot by researchers Beverly Whipple and John Perry, 30 years after the original article was published.
What is it? It’s your prostate… sorta. Every part that a man has, a woman has an equivalent part, a “homologue.” It’s the same stuff, just organized in a different way. The penis is the homologue of the clitoris, the scrotum is the homologue of the outer labia, and the prostate is the homologue of the urethral sponge, a spongy body of tissue that wraps around the urethra.
The prostate in men is known to have two functions: it swells up around the man’s urethra when he’s aroused, thus preventing him from urinating while he’s turned on. It also produces seminal fluid, the whitish liquid in which sperm travel.
The urethral sponge, we thus assume, has the equivalent functions. It does in fact swell with arousal, closing off the urethra. (Hence you can’t pee right after orgasm.) Whether or not the urethral sponge also produces some kind of fluid is less certain. There are some who suggest that this is the source of female ejaculate, a relatively rare but normal and healthy phenomenon where a woman ejaculates a large amount of fluid that is definitely not urine but also definitely not vaginal secretions. It looks for all the world like it’s coming from the urethra, but it’s not coming from the bladder.
But that’s another post.
The urethral sponge is sandwiched between the urethra and the vagina. It’s easiest to find when you’re already aroused. Because the tissue swells with arousal, the g-spot becomes more sensitive and more pronounced with arousal.
So get yourself warmed up with whatever clitorial or other non-penetrative stimulation gets you warm and wet. Then insert a finger about two joints, and feel along the anterior (front – the side closer to your belly button) wall of the vagina. You’ll feel either a little nubby or an area where the texture is different from where it is everywhere else.
The vagina does not go straight up and down. For most women, it is angled toward the abdomen. Pay attention to that angle as you’re feeling for the g-spot. It will be a crucial factor in generating effective stimulation later.
If you put pressure there, you might feel like you have to pee. That’s because you’re essentially pressing against the urethra, and your brain is interpreting that sensation as a need to pee. If you pee beforehand, you can relax knowing that your bladder is empty. Also, remember the g-spot swells up with arousal, making it impossible to pee even when you want to.
It might also be that pressure against the g-spot just hurts. If that’s true for you, there are a couple things that might be causing the pain:
The first is the g-spot itself. You might be one of the women not wired for pleasurable g-spot stimulation. Don’t worry, there are plenty of other ways for you to have an orgasm.
It might also be that the pain is related not the to g-spot but to penetration itself. Were you sufficiently lubricated that your finger slid easily into your vagina? Friction burns and can cause irritation.
Or you might not have long fingernails poking into your vaginal wall – cut your nails down below your fingertip and file it smooth. Very important.
A last source of pain might be inflammation or infection of the vagina. Yeast infections, STIs, and other imbalances of the vaginal fauna can cause burning, itching, and irritation. If your ladyship is not in tip-top condition, this will interfere with your enjoyment of your sexuality. If you’re not sure about your health status, get ye to a gyno.
Hope that’s helpful. I’ll write about what to do now you’ve found it, later. Next weekish.