An awesome question: what's the deal with the g-spot?

Here’s an awesome question:  

Apparently I’m supposed to have a g-spot and I have never in my life experienced anything remotely resembling what people say the g-spot feels like. What the hell?

I wrote an extremely thorough answer to this question over at Medium, but for those who just want to know what’s up without having to think about research methodology or social justice issues, here ya go:

The reality is:

Women vary.

If you have female genitals, then you have an area between your vagina and your urethra, and there’s a lot going on there. There’s the urethral sponge, the vestibular bulbs (corpus spongiosum of the clitoris), the urethra itself, the vagina itself, the musculature… and precisely how this is laid out is different for you than it is for every single other person with female genitals. Unique. No two alike.

Like with faces. We’re all born with a face that has two eyes, a nose, and a mouth in predictable places,  but varied enough that we can tell each other apart.

Ditto our genitals. The parts of our genital anatomy that really matter are not FUNCTIONALLY different — just as our faces are not functionally different — they’re only different in minor structural ways. Yet those minor structural differences are enough to make a noticeable difference in a woman’s proneness to g-spot sensitivity.

There are male examples of this, too! For example, did you know that the angle at which the corpora cavernosa attach to the puboischial rami has strong relationship with erectile functioning? That angle impacts how effectively blood is retained in the penis during arousal. Wide angle, more blood drainage, less reliable erection. Small differences in anatomy can make noticeable differences in functionality.

That variability is a primary reason why research results vary. Researchers find urethrovaginal anatomical structures correlated with vaginally-stimulated orgasm in women who have vaginally stimulated orgasms. They don’t in women who don’t.

The King’s College study that got all the media attention? It didn’t even LOOK at anatomy. It was a study investigating genetic, not anatomical, correlates, and it didn’t find any genetic correlation; the authors therefore concluded that, “there is no physical basis for the g-spot.” *headdesk* ]

That study did, however, provide the useful bit of information that about half of the women they asked said that they experience having a g-spot.

Which means that about half of women… don’t.

And both groups of women are 100% normal.

So that’s what’s up. About half of women have a urethrovaginal space that is, in the right context, sensitive to erotic stimulation. Precisely what it is, how it works, and who has them and why others don’t… these are all open questions.